Financial Aid

So I have had a huge problem with financial aid. I graduated high school wanting to go straight to college. At the same time I fell in love and moved out of state to be with my boyfriend. I applied to college and found out I'd have to pay 2x the tuition. I was considered a non-resident and I could not receive  financial aid because my dad makes too much money. 

My parent lives in different states. My dad was not helping me with school and my mom well, she's illegal. It took me 2 years to gather my paper work for residency and my dad refused to fill out my fafsa so I can at least get loans. I am now taking loans because financial aid thinks I am dependent on my parents even though I do not live with them. I am not considered independent unless I am married or pregnant. So until I am 24 yrs old (I am currently 21). I will not be able to get financial aid. I have wasted 3 years!!! I could have been close to getting my bachelors. grrz